If you take a look at the following pictures you might start to see a trend...Lydia is OBSESSED with her Binky! Now I'll be honest I have loved her Binky for that fact that it has certainly served its purpose. It has brought her comfort, and helped her sleep, but now that she is talking so much more it is time for the Binky to disappear! Anyways we have tried cutting the tip, and that seems to work for a moment or two and then that little stubborn personality wins and she keeps even that one in. Anyways if anyone has any advice they can offer I would greatly appreciate it!
Lydia and her Binky...
They were the best of friends (ha ha ha!)
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Do you want my honest opinion, or the one I should give??!! Warren still has his binki and I have NO problem with it. It makes us all so much happier. Really, when they are older what will it really matter? Braces maybe, but maybe not. I had a binki til I was 3 and never had braces. My sister never had a binki and had braces for 4 years!! My niece and nephew had binkis until they were 3 and 4. Now that they are 7 and 10, you would never know except that their mom is sane. So there you have it. As you can see, I am what I call a survival parent. Do what you can to make these years as peaceful as possible!! And, GOOD LUCK!
I did the cold turkey method. I threw them all away and never turned back. It took about 3 days of hell, but then he completly forgot about it. You just have to be strong if you really want it to stop. It's tough, but worth it. Good luck!!
i wish i had some good advice to give you.....kate still has hers, but it is dying down. now that she is older she is almost too busy playing to remember she doesn't have one 24/7! she mostly has it during naps or at night (sometimes in the car if she is tired).
she did/does the whole talking with it in her mouth, but i made a "rule" that if she was going to talk to me (or anyone) she has to take it out first....or i tell her i can't understand her with it in (even if i can). she has been very, very stubborn about not giving them up (i tried the cold-turkey method and she came out the next morning with every one of her knuckles chewed off and blood all over her! i asked my pediatrician about it & he said not to worry (it is better than a thumb in there!)
so....not much help, but at least you know you're not alone!!! give her a little more time & maybe she'll give them up on her own :)
You know Alex just barely got rid of his, but about the time he was Lydia's age we weened him down to only bedtime and naptime. It was rough because he asked for it incessantly, but instead of telling him he couldn't have it I would just ignore him when he asked. If I told him he couldn't have it he freaked out. Maybe try starting there. It might be easier to get rid of it once she only has it a few times a day. Then when you think she's ready and can start getting rid of it at naptime and bedtime. It honestly wouldn't bother me if he still had it at naptime and bedtime.
I agree with momma fish somewhat. i think sometimes parents are so eager to "make things right" with their kids, and stress way too much about binkies. BUT, also with that said... I totally understand you wanting to take it away if it's affecting her communicating well- which was my case. I didn't really care that tate had it (she was 2 when we took it away), but she started slurring all her words and i could never understand her. so, actually right around this same time i started talking to her about the easter bunny and how fun he was. i told her in a little while the easter bunny was going to come and leave her a special treat in her basket... but that she had to leave her binky in there for the easter bunny to take to the babies. so, the night before easter, we set her empty basket out and put her binky in there... then the next morning her binky was gone and she had some fun toys and treats to distract her. she cried for 1 night, and then she was fine and we always made sure to make a HUGE deal about how nice she was for giving her binky to the easter bunny. it worked like a gem!! ( i think the real key is just making the decision and then sticking to it, no matter what... so you have to be ready to follow through)
GOOD LUCK:)
ps- also forgot to tell you, about this exact time i started ONLY letting her have it "in her crib", so that meant for naps and bedtime only... until the easter bunny came. i think it helped to ease her into a bit.
I just remembered reading some of your other comments that my pediatrican said that when he was ready he would dump the binki. I think he was ready although Alex would tell you otherwise. My pediatrician said if I did decide to take it away to ween him from him. If i took it away too soon he might suck his thumb to compensate and thumb sucking leads to far more problems than the binki.
I blogged back in 2008 about taking the binkie away from Coleman. He was 2 when we did it and I know how hard it is. We had a "Binkie Fairy" come. We colored a picture to the binkie fairy then we had him put it in an envelope alond with all of his binkies and then he took them out to the mailbox. We told him that in exchange for his binkie's, the binkie fairy would bring him a small toy train (He was big into Thomas) We told him that the little babies needed the binkie more than he. I distracted him while PJ went out and replaced the letter and binkies with the toy. About an hour later we went back out to the mailbox and he got his surprise. HE LOVED IT and everytime he asked about the bink, I reminded him that he gave them to the binkie fairy. He was fine. You just have to make sure that she's totally on board and old enough to understand whats happening.... there's my advice! :)
Britt let's face it, I have no advice obviously. Since I have no kids of my own...YET!!:) So I read through all these comments for my own sake so I will know what to do when my own time comes!!!
I wish that I had advice for you too, but neither of my boys would take a binki after about 1 month old! Sounds like you got some good advice though. I like the Easter Bunny one....if you want to do it sooner than Easter, maybe try Cupid at Valentine's Day?!?!
Ha, Ha....all four of my kids had them and were attached at the hip--Andrew was 3 before he gave it up. I tried to take it away earlier, but some mom from a different country convinced me that Americans were far too worried about such things, so I put it back in and we were all happy. With my other kids, I took it away at about 6 months and that worked--good luck!
Alright, here I go again.... If you are really wanting to get rid of it, my friend did something cute. She tied them on balloons (she had to get like 15 to make them all float) and sent them to the baby birds who needed them. Then she took her little girl to the store and let her pick out a new blanket to sleep with. Worked for her. I don't dare do it though!!
Everyone THANK YOU SSSSOOOOOO MUCH!!! I now have more ideas than I even know what to do with (ha ha ha!) I seriously am in awe of what great advice you all had to offer and I am truly going to use all of it! Thanks again and I will keep ya updated on Mommy vs. The Binky!
Ohhhoo. good luck with this. It actually wasn't too bad with either of my girls. (not as hard as i thought anyway) Call me sometime and I'll explain what worked for us. I would type...but it will get too lengthy. Plus, looks like you have plenty of other helps =)
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